Heather’s Tips for Living with the one you Love:
(in no particular order)
You’ve just decided to move in with your boyfriend/girlfriend? Congratulations! You’ve either made an awesome step in the right direction with the one you love… or a terrible mistake… it’s all in how much your both willing to work at it! Let me give you a hand, with some personal advise/ experience about living with your significant other:
- It IS possible to get a man to put the new roll of toilet paper on the toilet paper dispenser. It takes a lot of talking-to, reminding, hands on teaching, and time… but if you hang in there long enough, he’s sure to get it on the dispenser eventually.
(Ok – I swear that is the only tip that will single out men for their habitation habits.)
- Putting dishes directly into a dishwasher/ cleaning them after dinner every night will save you HOURS of death-staring at each other over who is to take care of the dish version of Mt. Kilimanjaro.
- If you are both over the age of 12 when living together (as one can only hope to god that you are)… you should probably both take care of your own damn laundry. There is something to be said about the deep love you have for someone when sorting through their dirty underpants… if you want to save anything for the sanctity of marriage: it should be dirty underpants sorting.
note: this will also save you countless hours of bickering at each other for the mis-cleaning your specially loved clothing items.
*If you do decide to be the one to do BOTH of your laundry on any given day, you have the full right to claim any and all change that is left in pants pockets for doing their dirty work.
- When healthy people and non-health conscious individuals come together under one household, there are some serious discussions to discuss. For instance, when it comes to standing together in the dairy section of the grocery isles at Walmart… you may find yourself casually reaching for the skim milk… BUT WAIT!!! Your hand is suddenly yanked away from the milk cartons as if, at any moment, a BOMB were to explode inside the refrigerator case…and you hear over your shoulder, “I only drink 2%!!”
Save yourself the pain, and have the “which foods we prefer” discussions at home.
Wearing your favorite cartoon t-shirt from 1990 and flannel pants around the house all day on Saturday… still completely acceptable. Don’t worry – Ren and Stimpy will still be looking back at you in the mirror when you wake up on Sat. mornings.
- TOLIETS! For the love of everything that is good and right in the world… if you are a heterosexual couple living together… Guys: put the seat down. You’ll think it’s hilarious when your girlfriend screams @ one in the morning and comes back to the bedroom furious and soaking wet. Odds are, she won’t thinks its so funny. And depending on how long you’ve already been living together – she may seek revenge. (Guard your toothbrush ;D Sucka!)
(Okay, so that was the last tip that singles out men… I swear.)
- If you’ve not already crossed this bridge in your relationship get ready…. farting can be either easily accepted and laughed at… or it could make the one your with want to vomit. Hopefully you’ve got a feel for how they will take it, but if not… let them cast the first, eh-hem, wind.
- It would be a rare find to have two people with the same passion for products… hair products, shower products, car products, makeup products, cleaning products, need-less to say: one of you is GOING to have more shit than the other. Respect it, and if it really bothers you that much… be gentle in requesting them to stop buying so much crap… they have probably grown quite attached to these things. Don’t ever pull the, “It’s either me or the clothes/car/makeup/movies/games/fish/legos!!!” card… it’s just not worth the unexpected stay on your parents couch.
- It depends on your schedules, but chances are your going to be seeing a lot more of this person than you do currently. This will be awesome at first, and slowly you’ll start to remember how wonderful it was to have alone time. To avoid resenting each other, you need to plan when each of you can be alone in your new place. If your work/school schedules put you at home at the same time every day, figure out a night or two a week when one of you gets out of the house to be with friends for awhile so the other person can work on their scrapbooking with out Call of Duty blaring from the living room… or play Call of Duty without “I’m a Barbie Girl” blaring from the bedroom….
(I fully apologize for how sexist that was, actually- no I don’t, who is to say that Aqua doesn’t appeal to men??)
- I’m going to get serious for a moment (brace yourselves!) and say that, if you haven’t already learned to communicate… make it your sole effort in life to do learn now. It’s hilarious how many couples think that they will survive physically living together without emotionally living together. Your in love… and love is messy. Embrace the mess and talk through things no matter how difficult they are, if you need a few minutes or an hour to calm down- take it- but don’t ever cop out of a situation by walking out the door and coming home thinking it’s been resolved magically by the passing of time. The only thing magically resolved by the passing of time is constipation. Love is much more intricate and complicated than constipation. You can quote me.
For instance, if your boyfriend/girlfriend wakes up every morning and goes into the bathroom for a half-hour (doing lord only knows what), respect that. Don’t wake up right after them and demand the bathroom.. even if they don’t tell you it’s annoying now… they will lash out sooner or later. Love is awesome, finding someone you can actually enjoy living with 24/7 is an amazing and rare thing… but it takes work, attention and passion to succeed.